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How to Stop Being So Hard on Yourself at Work
You start the workweek ready to tackle your tasks, feeling confident, but then, it happens.
You don’t speak up during an important meeting, and the critical voice in your head starts.
“They’re going to think you’re not engaged. How could you let that opportunity go by?”
Some couples simply don’t talk. Well, they talk mostly about logistics—who’s picking up the kids, what time are you getting home—or superficial matters—the how-was-your-day? They don’t have serious conversations—intimate ones about how they really feel and what is going inside them and in their lives—or about problems in the relationship.
How to Manage Conflict and Promote Harmony
Intimate and distant, harmonious and conflictive, empathic and aggressive, constructive and destructive. Most relationships go through these polar moments from time to time. What can we do to nurture positive and manage negative experiences?
As we witness conflict in families, work, and society, we paused to reflect on how we, who have been together for over forty years, managed our own marital and occupational conflicts. Pretty quickly, we realized that the process of building the positive and managing the negative is absolutely crucial.
The Career Power of Being Conscientious
A couple of weeks ago I was reading the recent Psychology Today cover story, "How You'll Change," when I came across a sentence that stopped me in my tracks. "Early abilities to regulate one's attention and behavior can provide a basis for being conscientious," the sentence read, "an extremely valuable trait that has been shown to predict a range of positive outcomes later in life."
The Importance of Asking Your Partner the Right Questions
When you seek information from your partner, chances are you assume that no matter how you ask the question, you’ll get the same answer. You and your partner may even pride yourselves on your ability to read each other’s minds so that the exact words you use may seem irrelevant. However, if you stop and think about these assumptions, it might occur to you that there is more to question-asking as a strategy than you realize.
Do You Have Personal, Portable, Psychological Safety?
With more than two-thirds of workers reporting that they feel burnt out due to the psychological hazards they’re experiencing at work, governments and organizations are scrambling to minimize these risks. But while much can be done – and should be done – by workplaces and leaders to keep their people safe, researchers have found that there are simple but powerful actions each of us can also take to avoid burning ourselves out.
3 Ways Couples Can Make Quality Time Really Count
Many people come to therapy worried that they may not be spending enough time with their partner. They ask questions like the following:
Why Even Negative Self-Talk Can Help with Self-Regulation
In J. R. R. Tolkien’s The Lord of the Rings, Gandalf, after talking to himself aloud in the presence of others, defends the practice as, “a habit of the old,” to speak to the wisest person available. If you are like most people, young or old, you most likely speak to yourself frequently, probably more often silently than aloud and, much of the time, you may not find the input you are receiving to be particularly wise.